It's no secret that our family is a little different than most. We don't do things the way that most of the world does. I am okay with that. Until...
My kids are hurting because of it.
At a recent sleepover my dd was in tears many times because a girl was texting during her party. Okay, I hate that myself and I'm a grown-up; I can't imagine being a kid and having to deal with that. Then I have to say that they are eleven years old-what do they have to text about that can't wait? It is so rude to be talking to someone and then start texting someone else. It is a phenomenon that should never have been allowed. Good manners dictates that you devote your attention to the person you are with unless it is an emergency.
It is hard for our kids to do without the 'stuff' that the world says is valuable. We don't do cell phones for kids. Why? Who are they going to call? Seriously? If one of our kids had a job and was away from us then we might get them one to borrow while they are out. Or if they went to one of the ginormous schools around her, we might consider it. I just don't see that my kids that are homeschooled have any need for a cell phone.
That is what we have decided, for our family, it is not a judgment on any body else's family choices. That is until they start affecting my kids. When kids come into my house and make my children feel bad because they don't have a superfluous item then I have a problem with it.
I don't want my children to feel the consumerism of needing to have things just because others have them. I intentionally don't buy brand name clothes because I think they are ridiculous. Now, if we find them at the Goodwill store for two bucks, I'm okay with that until my kids will only buy the brand name because everyone else has them. Then I say no and we talk about why they want them.
Can you tell we are struggling with influences from the world? Even being homeschoolers, we feel it. I want my children's heart turned towards Christ not things. I want them to find value in who they are not what they have.
I'll get off my soapbox now and eat some chocolate!