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Thursday, February 3, 2011

Oh the pressure

My blog is being scraped again.  If you are reading this on a website other than you are reading a stolen copy of my content.

I joined a challenge on Facebook to post everyday for the month of February.  Shouldn't be too big of a deal for me since I love to talk/write.  Right?  Wrong.  I find that I am at a loss for words.  lol

Of course, maybe that is because we have the stomach flu making its way around the house again.  This time it has struck Steven.  He stayed home from work today but is planning on going in tomorrow.  Not sure if that is going to happen, though.  He looks terrible!

But that brings me to the thought that has been running around my head today.  I feel bad for men when they get sick.  No, really I do.  The reason I feel badly for them is because people are always saying that men are such babies when they are sick.  Great pains are made to point out that fact and it is run into the ground.  It is starting to bother me.

I have been thinking about why that got started.  Here's what I think.

I think that they are to some degree but it's not for the reason you are thinking of.  I think that they take being sick so much worse than women because God put into the heart of a man to provide and take care of their family so strongly that when they can't, it is painful to them.  (not a great sentence I know, but hang with me here)  God told man to take care of his dominion, provide for his family, protect them, etc.  That is their job, it is in their very beings.  A man that is doing that to the best of his abilities will hate being sick.  It will rub him the wrong way and make him cranky.  It could make him sullen and he may not understand why.

His wife certainly may not understand and take it as her husband being a 'baby'.  When really, he is feeling like he isn't holding up his end of the bargain by going to work to provide.  Let's face it, women, when we are sick and we can't do all the things that our 'job' requires don't we feel guilty, cranky, and a little sullen because we aren't doing our 'job'?  So, why wouldn't it be the same for our men?

Only, I think it is a bit more cutting for a man than a women.  Men are the head of the house which means they are responsible for everything in their care.  The ultimate responsibility is on them.  That is a pretty heavy thing.  One that I am glad to not have to bear.  The shoulders of my husband are broad and sturdy and carry the weight of his family on them.  Praise God he cares enough about us to hate being sick.

So, the next time you hear someone complaining about a man being a baby while they are sick, don't join in the bashing but instead lift up the man and be thankful for his God-given drive to provide for his family.


Ring Leader said...


Steph @ Wild Crickets said...

Great thoughts! I started to say that I have the opposite with my husband... he doesn't stop when he's sick, and he won't own up to it much less complain about it. But, that's the same thing. He just does it quietly. He doesn't want to stop and care for himself or give himself rest because he feels like he needs to carry on. I'll definitely think of this the next time I'm giving him grief about denying that he's sick. He's just trying to do his job. Thanks for the post!

momma24 said...

Steph, my hubby does that as well and then when he finally stays home it freaks me out bc I know he is *really* sick then. Praise God we have such husbands!

Christi said...

Thank you for a wonderful reminder. My husband is a great provider, who very rarely calls in, when he does he is truly sick. Yes, sometimes he's whiny, but I can definitely say not anymore than the kids and I are when we don't feel good.